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‘What Teens Need Most From Their Parents’ from the Wall Street Journal



Check out a little excerpt from this article from the Wall Street Journal below, and click the link at the bottom to read the full article!

“The teenage years can be mystifying for parents. Sensible children turn scatter-brained or start having wild mood swings. Formerly level-headed adolescents ride in cars with dangerous drivers or take other foolish risks.

A flood of new research offers explanations for some of these mysteries. Brain imaging adds another kind of data that can help test hypotheses and corroborate teens’ own accounts of their behavior and emotions. Dozens of recent multiyear studies have traced adolescent development through time, rather than comparing sets of adolescents at a single point.

The new longitudinal research is changing scientists’ views on the role parents play in helping children navigate a volatile decade. Once seen as a time for parents to step back, adolescence is increasingly viewed as an opportunity to stay tuned in and emotionally connected. The research makes it possible to identify four important phases in the development of intellectual, social and emotional skills that most teens will experience at certain ages.”


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Think of school lunch for your child as the fuel you put in your tank. Choose the wrong kind of fuel, and your child might run out of energy before the day is over. Some children prefer the cafeteria selections at their school while others prefer to bring their lunches from home.

If your child prefers the cafeteria, take time either in the evenings or weekly to sit with your child and review the cafeteria menu. Knowing what’s for lunch beforehand will let your child know if he/she wants to eat it! Help them choose the best options that will ensure good nutrition and, if necessary, avoid allergic/gastric reactions. Have them bring home a copy of the menu or figure out how to find it on the school website.

If your child prefers a packed lunch find out what they like to eat and stock up on those foods. Help them make healthy choices that include vegetables and/or fruits along with good portion of protein and carbohydrates. Encourage, and if necessary assist, your child to prepare and pack their lunch the night before. Also, be creative. For younger children, give them cookie cutters to cut designs in their sandwiches; teenagers may enjoy having specialty breads/rolls for their sandwiches.

The following are other great tips for your kids from Kids Health!

  1. Choose fruits and vegetables. Fruits and vegetables are like hitting the jackpot when it comes to nutrition. They make lunch colorful and they’re packed with vitamins and fiber. It’s a good idea to eat at least five servings of fruits and vegetables every day, so try to fit in one or two at lunch. A serving isn’t a lot. A serving of carrots is ½ cup or about 6 baby carrots. A fruit serving could be one medium orange.
  2. Know the facts about fat. Kids need some fat in their diets to stay healthy — it also helps keep you feeling full — but you don’t want to eat too much of it. Fat is found in butter, oils, cheese, nuts, and meats. Some higher-fat lunch foods include french fries, hot dogs, cheeseburgers, macaroni and cheese, and chicken nuggets. Don’t worry if you like these foods! No food is bad, but you may want to eat them less often and in smaller portions. Foods that are lower in fat are usually baked or grilled. Some of the best low-fat foods are fruits, vegetables, and skim and low-fat milk.
  3. Let whole grains reign. “Grains” include breads, cereals, rice, and pasta. But as we learn more about good nutrition, it’s clear that whole grains are better than refined grains. What’s the difference? Brown rice is a whole grain, but white rice is not. Likewise, whole-wheat bread contains whole grains, whereas regular white bread does not.
  4. Slurp sensibly. It’s not just about what you eat — drinks count, too! Milk has been a favorite lunchtime drink for a long time. If your child does not like milk, have them choose water. Juice drinks and sodas should be avoided.
  5. Steer clear of packaged snacks. Many schools make salty snacks, candy, and soda available in the cafeteria or in vending machines. It’s OK to have these foods once in a while, but they shouldn’t be on your lunch menu.
  6. Mix it up. Do you eat the same lunch every day? If that lunch is a hot dog, it’s time to change your routine. Keep your taste buds from getting bored and try something new. Eating lots of different kinds of food gives your body a variety of nutrients.
  7. Quit the clean plate club. Because lunch can be a busy time, you might not stop to think whether you’re getting full. Try to listen to what your body is telling you. If you feel full, it’s OK to stop eating.


Finally, remind your children to use their manners during lunch time including chewing with their mouth closed, avoiding talking and eating at the same time, and using utensils and napkins. Encourage your children not to share or trade their food with others to avoid possible allergic reactions or interfering with other dietary restrictions.

Back to School!

Ah, the lazy days of summer are over and it’s the official start day for schools. Going back to school can be an exciting but also uneasy time for children and teens. Anxieties can be especially high when the child or teen is transitioning to a brand new school system or a new building (e.g., elementary to middle school or from middle school to high school).

Parents, there are some things to keep in mind to help reduce some anxiety.

  1. Encourage your child to talk about the new school year including what classes they are excited about and what friends they are happy to see again. Also, ask your child what concerns, if any, they may have after the first few days. To facilitate conversation consider holding the conversation in a place or during an activity that is comfortable for the child or teen (e.g., while eating ice cream).
  2. Be sure to implement a consistent bedtime routine so mornings go smoother. Also, children should eat a healthy breakfast in the morning. Consider implementing a routine including designating a place for backpacks, lunch boxes, etc. to be placed in the evening. Working with your child in the evening to pack lunch and selecting an outfit for the next day can also save time and headaches in the morning.
  3. Participate in any meet-the- teacher day so you can familiarize yourself with your child’s teacher and classroom/school. These meetings also are a great opportunity to address with the teacher any concerns your child has shared with you during your talks.

It is important to remember that most children will ease into the academic year without major issues. For those children that seem to struggle seek out assistance from the school counselor or, if issues of school avoidance arise, a mental health professional can provide additional guidance.